If you are having a problem with petty arguments in the marriage, then you probably aren’t dwelling together as God intended. Remember, men are told to honor their wives as the “weaker vessels.” 1 Peter 3:7 says, “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel.” Yet wives are supposed to be useful as well, according to Proverbs 31. They are not to sit around collecting dust like decorative vases. What is the defining characteristic of a useful fragile vessel? Being gently filled with something. 1 Peter 3:7 makes it very clear that husbands are to dwell with their wives according to knowledge, the same word that is used for sex in the Bible. But this is no call to roughly bed your wife. Remember, “gently” is key. Use your most gentle tool, your tongue, to minister to the weaker vessel. Fill her as full of this gentle tool as she desires. She can become most useful only when she is thus filled and ministered to, because The Lord designed her that way! You will need to wash her daily if she is to be used daily as a weaker vessel.
You will soon discover that if you fill and wash her properly, truly honoring her body as the vase-shaped vessel it is, she will respond positively and begin to respect your male prowess — assuming you have it, of course. If you are an inadequate lover, we suggest you remedy this immediately. To put it quite bluntly, you are sinning if you are not giving your wife regular orgasms by your washings with the word.
Over time, your wife may become so exhausted and thankful from these orgasmic experiences that she will have no need to take up petty quarrels with you. In our experience, women spend time nit-picking when they are feeling ignored and unloved. A happy woman never nit-picks, and women who are properly cared for by their husbands are happy.